Disclaimer: Don’t be too sensitive and keep an open mind when reading this post maybe you will disagree but hey it’s your opinion and that is okay by me. Leave a comment of disapproval if you like as well I don’t mind.
Disclaimer for my Mother: This post is totally not a post about me getting with an old man...hahaha I promise but if I do find me an cavalier older man you will be the first to know...such an inside thing between me and my mom. Okay mom just breath don't worry I haven't turned into Anna Nicole Smith just yet.
So let’s start this year off with a bang. This post has been festering inside me for a little while now and I have just been trying to find the right words so that it actually makes sense to the rest of the world like it makes sense to me.
I guess I will start from the beginning because that’s the best place to begin…(RIGHT?!?!?). Well actually I will give you the cliff notes version. I reconnected with an old co worker on Facebook, talked to him for about a month, invited him on a trip to Vegas, then a month later married him, oh wait let me back up just a notch. Invited him on a trip to Vegas, talked about getting married about a day or two after leaving Vegas, did the whole talking to the family thing, two days before the day I was going to be married found out he knocked up an old girlfriend during our whirlwind love affair, married him anyway (don’t ask), packed up my two year old moved to California, bones kept falling out of the closet (not mine) and end up divorced on our 1 year anniversary. That pretty much sums up my the latter part of 2009 up to 2010 so now I can get into the meat and potatoes of this post on Love or really the reason I’m not looking for it.
Love by definition is strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties (straight from Websters dictionary that is) basically nowhere in the definition does it talk about respect, loyalty or honesty its just a strong affection. I have a strong affection for a lot of things pizza, Arizona green tea, ranch dressing, stilettos (the list really goes on and on) but needless to say love falls short, a strong affection isn’t a promise to do the right thing or to tell you the truth and protect you from harm. Its just a strong affection.
Now you’re thinking okay so she doesn’t believe in love or she has this love thing all wrong. I am not saying I don’t believe in love I am just saying love is something that can be handed out all over the place. I love tons of things and tons of people (actually I love all people, you know like mankind) but that being said here are some things that are exclusive Respect , Loyalty and Trust. Respect ,Loyalty and Trust are three things that I don’t offer to everyone, one has to really prove themselves worthy in order to gain my respect and to gain my loyalty and my trust.
So when I say that I am not looking for love I am looking for all the things that love leaves out I don’t need someone to just have a strong affection for me. I need someone that respects me for who I am and that I can respect, I need someone that is loyal and knows what team they are playing for (if there with me then my team is the only team) and someone that can be trusted without a shadow of a doubt to keep their promises and to tell the truth even if a lie is easier to swallow.
I don’t need someone cowering behind what they think love is because love just isn’t enough for me. I always think back to the title of this move There’s a Thin Line Between Love and Hate. Well baby I am here to tell you Danielle isn’t walking any tightropes so you can keep your love just make sure you Respect me, are Loyal to me and are worth it for me to Trust you and we will be good and of course I will love you (Remember I love all mankind)!
So I am going to rock in my New Year with my baby in tow and if a good man stumbles upon my feet (because that happens like everyday) maybe I will hand him a copy of this post so he will know what it takes to play on this team there are of course many other qualifying factors but these are three of the most important things to me.
Disclaimer to the Disclaimer: So now your thinking I am a complete crazy woman well not really I just thought the disclaimer made the post that much more interesting…hahaha