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Thursday, December 23, 2010

Things that go Bump in the Night

There are often times or situations that snap me back into the reality that I am a single mom and that we are in this big house alone. Tonight was one of those nights. The days events were a bit shaky leaving me uncertain as to what the night would hold. I was sitting thinking of my post for tomorrow while watching Kendra on E! when out of no where my doorbell began to ring frantically.

I looked at the clock and wondered why anyone would be at my door at this time of night. I was visibly shaken and proceeded to my door with caution and looked out of my peephole. The only thing that I could see was a dark figure standing there, I had forgot to turn on the light and it was pitch black outside not to mention in this part of California the fog makes it hard to see just about anything. I was informed earlier today to steer clear of opening the door or answering certain phone calls so I heeded the warning and ran up my stairs to my 3 year olds room just waiting for him to leave.

I had my phone in my hand and proceeded to call my mother in order to get up the courage to walk back downstairs into a room that was completely exposed by windows and lacked curtains. Every bump made me more nervous but my mom reassured me that she would stay on the phone as I proceeded to cover the window with sheets. It never hit me until that moment that a divorce can be a very dangerous thing you never truly know what the other person is thinking or why they choose to do things when and how they do them.

I know that my ex is in no way the violent type but I also know that you can never underestimate a person that has experienced a tremendous heart break. While I was hanging the sheets and talking to my mom I got a text saying that he had just left Daylan's gifts on the porch for the life of me I couldn't understand why he would need to come to my house in the middle of the night to leave my son's gifts we work in the same place and he could have easily left the gifts in my office with no problem but like I said you never know where a person is in their train of thought and how they are truly processing the break up.

I where my emotions out in the open and on my sleeve you know if I am sad, happy, mad and angry I am not one to internalize them but we are different people and we handle things very differently. My mom suggested that I call the police department and have them do a quick walk through of my back yard just to make sure that everything was okay and to give me some peace of mind. I went ahead and called them and in less then 5 mins they were at my house making sure that I was okay so a big thank you is in order to SRPD they reassured me that I did the right thing calling them and if I heard anything else they would come right back.

I am a nervous wreck and want nothing more than to go to sleep but I don't think sleep will come so easy tonight because every little bump in the night sends me back into panic mode. I know that if I were closer to my family I wouldn't feel so vulnerable but I have no one here and I feel isolated even though I have neighbors all around me.

I am going to make it a point this week to get the contact information for my neighbors so that I am not so out here on a limb. I never would have imagined this would be my life and that the marriage that I wanted would turn so quickly into a divorce and then in to me sitting in my house scared of every sound that I hear but I guess life has a way of teaching us valuable lessons and I am just glad that the only thing he left behind on that doorstep were presents for Daylan.


Gina Alfani said...

After my husband passed away many years ago, I went through a long period of time that I was a sack of nerves.

I know that scary feeling of fearing those things that go bump in the night. It took me forever to be able to get a good night's sleep. Thank God I was able to survive with the eBay store that was open 24/7 and it didn't matter when I was sleeping.

OMG Danielle . . . get some curtains girl!! Those open windows at night would absolutely freak me out.

You are very smart to consider what a person would do when in an emotional state of mind. You never know . . .

Do what you gotta do to make yourself safe and feel safe too!


Losing Brownies said...

I'm glad that it was only gifts that he left. I don't understand why he wouldn't have called you or made arrangements to see Dylan before making an appearance on your porch. I think it was a good idea you called the police too.

Skye said...

ohh that is scarry...
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lfhpueblo said...

Smart girl.
Hey I had the sheriff's deputy out here knocking on my door one time at around 2am.
I was still awake and was in the living room with the TV on.
I checked out the peep hole, even saw it was a Sheriff Deputy, and asked through the door who it was.
He said, showed his badge to the peep hole,
but still I told him he had to wait until I woke up my husband.
My husband answered the door with his rifle.
You just don't know, because a few months earlier in this community there was a guy posing as a police officer with lights on his car pulling over people and giving them so called traffic warnings.
So anyways, it was a real Sheriff Deputy and he was asking if we'd been hearing any loud music because they'd gotten three complaints from around this area in the past hour.
I pointed out three homes I know tend to blare their music at times, but told him I'd been up and hadn't heard anything and usually I would if it was any of the three homes I'd pointed out.
He was sorry he bothered us.
Yet, if my husband hadn't been home I would not have opened that door without first calling the Sheriff's Dept. and checking with them that this was indeed a Sheriff's Deputy.
You did the right thing.

Mel said...

Wow that is so scary! I'm glad you had the cops come out. We've had someone messing with our house recently and it was really scary.

Glad to find your blog!

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Danielle said...

Thank you everyone for your comments. I was so freaked out last night everything kept waking me up. I felt so much better after the police took a look around. All I could really think about is that I didn't want to be on one of those shows like the First 48 or Cold Case (my moms type of programming). I do need to get curtains and that will be my next order of business because Daylan told me that he was not happy having those sheets on the windows. He even asked me if I was trying to build a castle because we normally use the sheets for castles and forts. Gotta love the 3 year old.

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