There are often time when we as mothers have to let go of our children and trust them in the care of someone else. I know for me it has been one of the hardest things that I have had to endure leaving my son with total stranger for 8hrs a day. Because I am in the military we have to move every 4 yrs which means that we have to constantly start over in a new place often. In the last three years of my son’s life we have moved twice and he has had on private sitter and two different daycare's.
It often breaks my heart in the morning when I am getting dressed and Daylan walks in and says “Mommy I wanna stay home with you” or after I drop him off and he says “Mommy can I please go to work with you” I often want to just turn around and put him back in the car and take him home to spend the day with me but reality always hits and off to work I must go.
There have been two resources in particular that have made the transitions a little easier. The first is the National Association of Child Care Resource & Referral Agencies and Care.com.
As stated on the NACCRRA Website….
NACCRRA, the National Association of Child Care Resource & Referral Agencies, is our nation's leading voice for child care. We work with more than 700 state and local Child Care Resource and Referral agencies nationwide. These agencies help ensure that families in 99 percent of all populated ZIP codes in the United States have access to high-quality, affordable child care. To achieve our mission, we lead projects that increase the quality and availability of child care professionals, undertake research, and advocate child care policies that positively impact the lives of children and families.
Since 1987, NACCRRA has been working to improve the system of early learning for children by:
- Providing training, resources, and best practices standards to local and state CCR&Rs that support high quality, accountable services
- Promoting national policies and partnerships that facilitate universal access to high quality child care
- Collecting, analyzing, and reporting current child care data and research, including childcare supply and demand trends and
- Offering child care and parenting information and resources to families and connecting families to local CCR&R services
As stated on the Care.com website…
Care.com provides a trusted place for families and care providers to easily connect, share caregiving experiences, and get advice. The company addresses the unique lifecycle of care needs that each family may go through — including child care, special needs care, tutoring, senior care, pet care, housekeeping and more. The service enables families to find and select the best care possible based on detailed profiles, background checks, and references for hundreds of thousands of mom-reviewed providers who are seeking to share their services.
Have any of you women ever felt guilty about putting your children in daycare?
2 comments:
Most moms feel guilty, but you sometimes have to pray and leave it to God. I often talk a lot to the sitter. I really try to get to know them. Ask questions and ideas on child rearing so I know their theory, style and attitude toward child rearing.
I also go out of my way to get to know the other moms to see if there is other issues going on at the center. I also show our appreciate on special days like teacher appreciation, christmas, etc..
What's funny is I feel guilty on the days that he is being so good and so sweet but those days when he is being a real pain in the you know what I am glad to send him off to be with other people besides me.
I had a really difficult time adjusting to him being in daycare but I found one that is wonderful and made me feel so comfortable that it really put all my worries to rest. I do however go to his school unannounced every now and then and peak in the viewing windows just to make sure he is okay.
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